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Giving up custody of my daughter?

Last post 11-27-2007 1:47 PM by taltos. 2 replies.
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  • 11-09-2007 11:30 PM

    Giving up custody of my daughter?

     I was told by a recruiter that I can go active duty even though I'm a single mother. Yet, I'm just looking into reserves right now. He tells me either way, I'll have to give my parents full custody of my daughter or have them adopt her before anything. Is this true?


    My Diva
  • 11-17-2007 9:45 AM In reply to

    Re: Giving up custody of my daughter?

    Being a single mother is hard work, raising your child is very important.  Before you make a decision you need to think about a few things.  One boot camp lasts 12 weeks.  That's twelve weeks you will be away from your child.  The only contact you will have is via mail, no phone calls, no eye to eye contact..  Two, when and if you graduate, not everyone does, you will have one week with your child and then to MCT for seventeen days, then off to your MOS school.  Three, you will not be able to take your child to your school.  Are you willing to stay away from your child that long?  If you don't graduate it could take longer than 12 weeks to get off the island.  Will seeing your child on weekends and holidays be enough for you and how about her?  Joining the Marine Corps is a good dream to have but it's not for everone.  It was hard for me when Daphne went to boot camp, I can't imagine what it would be to leave a small daughter behind.  Just my two cents worth, take it or leave it.  There are many ways you can help the Corps without being a Marine.  You can always get a job in civil service.

    Air Force Brat, Seabee Wife, Marine Mom, been there, done that, Got the T-shirt. Kathy
  • 11-27-2007 1:47 PM In reply to

    • taltos
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    Re: Giving up custody of my daughter?

    I'm sorry, I did not see this post when it went up originally. The Marine Corps will require you to submit to them a plan for the care of your child as a single parent. Most likely either your parents or the father of the child will have to submit paperwork indicating that they will take care of the child for the term of your enlistment. You will not be giving up custody but you will have to submit a power of attorney and temporary guardianship granting whomever will care for the child control over the child's upbringing and health care for the term of enlistment. I agree with Mom, if you can pass the tests, civil service might be a better move.

    USMC 1980-1986
    Semper Fidelis
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